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Oct 18, 2011 11:51 AM

A life spent making mistakes is not only more 
honorable but more useful than a life
spent doing nothing.

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FAVORIT QUOTES / THOUGHTS / PRAYERS ETC.

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FAVORIT QUOTES / THOUGHTS / PRAYERS ETC.
Oct 18, 2011 11:51 AM

A life spent making mistakes is not only more 
honorable but more useful than a life
spent doing nothing.

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May 31, 2012 11:19 PM

#515, The Power of Letting GoWe all go through disappointments, setbacks and things we don’t understand. Maybe you prayed for a loved one, but they didn’t get well. Or maybe you worked hard for a promotion, but you didn’t get it. You stood in faith for a relationship, but it didn’t work out. One of the best things you can do is release it and let it go. If you go around dwelling on it, wondering why this didn’t work out, why my loved one didn’t get healed, why I didn’t get that promotion, all that’s going to do is lead to bitterness, resentment and self-pity. Before long you’ll be blaming others, yourself, and maybe even God. You may not have understood it. It may not have been fair. But when you release it, it’s an act of your faith. You’re saying, “God, I trust You; I know You’re in control. And even though it didn’t work out my way, You said that all things are going to work together for my good. So I believe You still have something good in my future.”

Proverbs 20:24 says, “Since the Lord is directing our steps, why do we try to figure out everything that happens along the way?” God has you in the palm of His hand. He is directing you every step of the way. That disappointment may not have been fair, but it’s all a part of your divine destiny. If you will let it go and move forward, then you’re going to come into something awesome that God is about to do; not ordinary like you had planned, but extraordinary like God has planned.

 

JOEL OSTEEN

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Re: FAVORIT QUOTES / THOUGHTS / PRAYERS ETC.
Jun 20, 2012 05:35 AM

I will never forget you

Three thousand years may pass
You may kiss other lips
But I will never forget you
But I will never forget you

I may die tomorrow
My soul may wither
But I will never forget you
But I will never forget you

They may erase my memory
The may take your story from me
But I will never forget you
But I will never forget you

How can I forget your smile?
How can I forget your gaze?
How can I forget that I was praying
so that you wouldn't leave?

How can I forget your antics?
How can I forget you could fly?
How can I forget that I still love you
more than life, more than anything?

Three thousand years may pass
You may kiss other lips
But I will never forget you
But I will never forget you

I may die tomorrow
My soul may wither
But I will never forget you
But I will never forget you

You may throw me out of your life
You may deny that you loved me
But I will never forget you
You know that I will never forget you

How can I forget your smile?
How can I forget your gaze?
How can I forget that I was praying
so that you wouldn't leave?

How can I forget your antics?
How can I forget you could fly?
How can I forget that I still love you
more than life, more than anything?

Three thousand years may pass
You may kiss other lips
But I will never forget you
But I will never forget you
But I will never forget you
But I will never forget you

 

by ENRIQUE IGLESIAS

 

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Jun 28, 2012 02:15 AM

Don’t Settle for Good Enough

God has planted seeds of greatness on the inside of every one of us. We all have dreams and desires, things we want to accomplish, things we want to see changed. But so many times, life has a way of stealing our dreams. We go through disappointments, face adversity, or things don't turn out as we would like. Too often, we just end up settling for second best.

But God doesn't want us to settle for second best. He wants us to press on and pursue the greatness that's on the inside. Don’t let "good enough" be good enough! Be determined that you are going to become everything God has created you to be. Make room for the new thing God wants to do in your life!

 

JOEL OSTEEN

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Jul 12, 2012 11:53 PM

Your Second Wind Is On Its Way;)

 

Isaiah 40:31 says, “But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.”

There are times in life that we all get tired: tired of trying to make a business grow, tired of dealing with a sickness, tired of raising a difficult child, tired of living lonely, waiting to meet the right person. We can even be doing what we love, living in the house of our dreams, raising great children, or working at a good job, but if we’re not careful, we can lose our passion and allow weariness to set in. The problem is if you allow yourself to become weary, you’ll be tempted to quit: to quit growing, quit standing for that wayward child, quit believing to get healthy and whole, or quit pursuing your goals and dreams. That’s why you have to wait upon the Lord and hope in Him. Don’t give up when victory is right around the corner. God promises He will renew your strength. As you thank God for fighting your battles, you will be able to run and not get weary, you’ll walk and not faint. You’re not going to drag through life defeated, depressed, and under the circumstances. You’re going to soar through life on wings like eagles, overcoming every obstacle, defeating every enemy and accomplishing every God-given dream.

 

JOEL OSTEEN

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Jul 16, 2012 05:30 AM

“All you need is love. But a little chocolate now and then doesn't hurt.”
― Charles M. Schulz

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Jul 19, 2012 05:54 AM

QUOTE:

 

DON'T TRY TO SOLVE SERIOUS MATTERS IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT

 

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Jul 19, 2012 07:24 AM

Hi,

 

My usual boards are the Homestead, Seller Central, or the Vintage Clothing Board (just so you know I’m legit and can look up my posts if you want).

 

I need prayers and even a bit of help, please.

My husband died on the floor of San Dimas Community Hospital in Claremont, CA.

 

We had gone there for my daughter, and he started feeling sick. They ignored classic heart symptoms for an hour, then administered a non-urgent rash medication, and in the end, let him lay on the floor for 12 minutes with no intervention once he finally collapsed.

 

A crash cart stood unused, 4 feet away.

 

He drove us there, and I drove home a widow.

 

I knew the hospital blew it that day, so I wrote everything down that night.

 

And, I sued. I actually didn’t see the medical record for 2 years – it was too painful for me – but, guess what? Everything I wrote was iin the medical record AND the hospital’s own records were even WORSE!

 

Tenet Healthcare Corporation had a crachk shot lawyer, though. He actually got part of the medical record – A LEGAL DOCUMENT – dismissed from court as hearsay. He “corrected” other parts for the jury. He even got my own notes from that night banned.

 

Once THAT was accomplished, the doctor and nurse could get up on the stand and say anything they wanted.

They won. Now I owe THEIR legal fees.

You’d think they’d just be glad they dodged a bullet, but no. Hospitals write off monies every day, all year long. Trevor Fetter, Tenet’s CEO, has a $1.8 million compensation package.

 

I guess I could swallow that, but in all the financial aftermath of Alan’s sudden death, and the crash in the economy, I lost my job temporarily and was so curled upp in grief and shock that I couldn’t do anything to help myself.

Things are better now, but I’m in foreclosure because I can’t quite catch up. Here’s where one problem meets the other:

I qualify for a loan modification, but Tenet Healthcare has put a lien on my house. No one can sign new loan documents (refi, sale, modification, add someone to title, etc.) with a judgment lien in place.

 

In other words, I’m blocked from the very modification that will save my house. The auction date is August 8th. My daughter is special needs (bipolar, anxiety disorder, clinical depression), and has been hospitalized twice in 3 months due to stress and fear related to this.

I know this is long, but here’s the favor (2, actually)……

  1. Does anyone have any media contacts, to help me get attention for this, and possibly pressure Tenet Healthcare Corporation to lift their lien?
  2. Would anyone please sign my petition at Chang.org, a respected social/political action website? AND SHARE WITH FRIENDS? Every online signature generates an email that goes to several inboxes at Tenet Healthcare.

The link to the petition is:

 

http://www.change.org/petitions/tenet-healthcare-lift-the-lien-on-mary-jamie-class-house

 

Any other brainstorming ideas appreciated. I HAVE reached out to the Occupy groups, and it looks like I might see some help there. But, I’m out of other ideas.

 

Thanks so much,

 

Jamie (red3rose)

 

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Re: FAVORIT QUOTES / THOUGHTS / PRAYERS ETC.
Jul 22, 2012 10:40 AM

Give the Gift of Yourself;)

 

Sometimes life gets busy, and it’s easy to put off connecting with those we love or show appreciation to others because we “don’t have the time.”

In this message, Joel reminds us that James 4:14 says our life is like a vapor. Life is short, and we don’t know what tomorrow holds. That’s why we need to make the most of each day. If you will learn to give the best of yourself consistently, you will live life with no regrets.

 

JOEL OSTEEN

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Jul 25, 2012 09:18 AM

Turn the Page;)

 

A while back, I met a sharp young couple with three small children from New Orleans. They had lost everything during Hurricane Katrina. The house that they had worked so hard for was swept away along with their furniture, possessions and car. They made it out of the city with just the clothes on their backs. A rescue bus had dropped them off at the Houston Astrodome. One of the couples from Lakewood Church, who was volunteering, reached out to them and helped them find an apartment and get back on their feet.

 

The man told how he was the first one in his family to ever own a home, and the first one to ever graduate from college. Their future was bright. Everything was going well. But when Hurricane Katrina hit, it just took the wind out of their sails.

 

Since they didn't have a car at the time, another couple from Lakewood would pick them up every Sunday and bring them to church. They would hear about how God created us to be victors and not victims, and how God will pay us back double for our trouble. Every week, this couple began to shake off self-pity and got a fresh, new vision for life.

 

Recently, they brought pictures of the new house where they just moved. He told about the new job he now has making better money. In New Orleans, they had an older home that needed remodeling. They were happy with it. They were grateful. But here, God blessed them with a brand new house. Before, they had hand-me-down furniture, but God blessed them with brand new furniture. Before, their children went to an okay school, but here, they go to an excellent school. What happened? They kept moving forward. Instead of holding on to bitterness, questions and self-pity, they turned the page and walked into that flourishing finish.

 

Always remember, when you go through disappointments or setbacks, God still has a good plan for you. Shake off bitterness. Shake off self-pity. Say to yourself, "This setback is not the end; it's a new beginning." Trust that God is working behind the scenes on your behalf. Seek Him, follow His leading and move forward into the flourishing finish He has for your future!

 

"For I know the thoughts and plans that I have for you, says the Lord, thoughts and plans for welfare and peace and not for evil, to give you hope in your final outcome" (Jeremiah 29:11, AMP).

 

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Jul 27, 2012 07:14 AM

A SLIP OF THE FOOT YOU MAY SOON RECOVER, BUT A SLIP OF THE TONGUE YOU MAY NEVER GET OVER.

 

ANGER IS NEVER WITHOUT REASON, BUT SELDOM WITH A GOOD ONE.

 

BE CIVIL TO ALL, SOCIALBLE TO MANY, FAMILIAR WITH FEW, FRIENDLY TO ONE; ENEMY TO NONE!

 

AT 20 YEARS OF AGE THE WILL REIGNS, AT 30 THE WIT, AT 40 THE JUDGMENT.

 

 

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Jul 27, 2012 03:43 PM

Those who live by the sword get shot by those who live by the gun.



The difference between genius and stupidity is genius has limits. Youtube Channel

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Aug 8, 2012 10:36 AM

Be Confident in What You Have

 

It’s easy to focus on what we don’t have—the talent, education, personality or connections.

But in this message, Joel reminds us that Zechariah 4:6 says, “Not by might nor by power, but by my Spirit, says the Lord Almighty.” You see, it’s not just our talent, education, or what family we come from that causes us to excel and overcome obstacles much bigger than us. What causes us to go places we’ve never dreamed of is the Most High God breathing in our direction. When you give God what you do have, He will multiply it. Just like Jesus fed the crowd of five thousand with five loaves of bread and two fish, when you give God what you have, He will do the same for you.

 

JOEL OSTEEN

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Aug 8, 2012 10:37 AM

Be Confident in What You Have

 

It’s easy to focus on what we don’t have—the talent, education, personality or connections. 

But in this message, Joel reminds us that Zechariah 4:6 says, “Not by might nor by power, but by my Spirit, says the Lord Almighty.” You see, it’s not just our talent, education, or what family we come from that causes us to excel and overcome obstacles much bigger than us. What causes us to go places we’ve never dreamed of is the Most High God breathing in our direction. When you give God what you do have, He will multiply it. Just like Jesus fed the crowd of five thousand with five loaves of bread and two fish, when you give God what you have, He will do the same for you.

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Aug 19, 2012 01:14 AM

Make Room for IncreaseYour thinking sets the limits for your life. ;)

In this message, Joel reminds us that God has unlimited supplies. The only thing that limits Him is our capacity to receive. He encourages us to make room for increase by having the right image of who we are in Christ on the inside. With verses like Matthew 9:29, “According to your faith will it be done to you” and Isaiah 60:1, “Arise, shine, for the glory of the Lord rises upon you,” you will be reminded to rise up to new levels of faith, expecting God to move in amazing ways in your life. When you take the limits off of God, you will see explosive blessings and His favor like never before.

 

JOEL OSTEEN

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Re: FAVORIT QUOTES / THOUGHTS / PRAYERS ETC.
Aug 19, 2012 01:18 AM

What Do You Want Him to Do?

 

There's a story in Matthew 20 about a time when Jesus was leaving the city of Jericho. Two blind men were sitting on the side of the road. When they heard all of the commotion of Jesus passing by, they began to holler out, "Jesus! Have mercy on us!" All of the people around them said, "Be quiet! You're going to disturb Him." But the blind men shouted even louder, "Jesus! Please! Have mercy on us!"

 

Jesus walked over to them and said something interesting. He asked, "What is it that you want Me to do for you?" It seemed obvious what they needed. They were blind. Why would Jesus say, "What do you want Me to do for you?" See, Jesus knew what their physical condition was, but He was asking about their heart condition. He wanted to know what they were believing. He wanted to know what their level of faith was. They could have said, "Jesus, we just need somebody to help us. It's hard being blind. Jesus, we need better shelter. We need a better place to live." But these men were bold. They knew what they wanted. They said, "Lord, we want our sight." The scripture says, "When Jesus saw their faith, He touched their eyes, and for the first time, they were able to see."

 

Today, imagine that Jesus is standing before you asking the same thing that He asked these blind men. "What do you want Me to do for you?" The way you respond is going to determine what He does. Now don't say, "God, I just want to get by this year. Times are tough." "God, my family is so dysfunctional. Just try to help us stay together." "God, I don't enjoy my job, but just help me to endure it." Dare to say, "God, I'm asking for a blessed, prosperous year." "God, I want to be free from this sickness." "God, I want to see my whole family serving You."

 

It's not enough to just think about it. It's not enough to just hope for it. Something supernatural happens when you ask. It puts a demand on your faith. When you ask, God releases His favor. When you ask, the angels go to work. When you ask, supernatural doors will begin to open. Ask in faith knowing that He hears you, and He is faithful. He will complete the good work He started in you!

 

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Aug 24, 2012 01:38 PM

Make Room for Increase

 

Your thinking sets the limits for your life. ;)

In this message, Joel reminds us that God has unlimited supplies. The only thing that limits Him is our capacity to receive. He encourages us to make room for increase by having the right image of who we are in Christ on the inside. With verses like Matthew 9:29, “According to your faith will it be done to you” and Isaiah 60:1, “Arise, shine, for the glory of the Lord rises upon you,” you will be reminded to rise up to new levels of faith, expecting God to move in amazing ways in your life. When you take the limits off of God, you will see explosive blessings and His favor like never before.

(112 of 168)
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Sep 10, 2012 10:10 PM

You've Been Framed

 

God has placed a destiny frame around your life!

In this message, Joel will remind you of the powerful hedge of protection and provision God has placed around your life and those you love. Filled with encouraging Bible passages, Joel will share applicable stories of David being protected from destruction and guided to victory and how Jonah was given a second chance even though he ran from God. You will be inspired to know your life is divinely orchestrated. There is no mistake too great to keep you from God’s love and goodness. You will know that you are truly in the palm of God’s hand and that victory is in your future.

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Sep 17, 2012 01:24 PM

tell him I will be there, I'm com'en and I'm bringing HELL with me!!

 

Earp, Whyatt"

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Re: FAVORIT QUOTES / THOUGHTS / PRAYERS ETC.
Oct 3, 2012 07:54 AM

Defining Moments

 

Everyone has defining moments in their lives; experiences that shape who we are and our perspective on the world. We can have defining moments in our relationships, in our careers, and with God.

 

All throughout our lives, God draws us to Himself in various ways. He chose us long before we ever chose Him, and He is constantly calling us to His heart. In defining moments with God, He reveals Himself to us and empowers us to live the life of victory He has planned.

 

I've had many defining moments in my life when I knew God was speaking directly to my heart. I remember one evening back when I was in college. I was studying with a friend at her kitchen table when I overheard a conversation between her mother and her aunt on the other side of the room. They were discussing the Bible, and as they talked about a particular passage of scripture, it stood out so strongly to me that it was like they were shouting across the room, even though they weren't.

 

"Did you hear that?" I enthusiastically asked my friend.

 

"Hear what?" she said, looking up from her notes. "What are you talking about, Victoria? I didn't hear a thing."

 

"You didn't hear that scripture about how God wants us to really understand His love and be passionate about it?" I was amazed that she hadn't noticed the conversation across the room.

 

She shook her head and looked back to her notes. Meanwhile, I sat there in awe. Those words were so clear; I felt that God was speaking directly to me in a very special way. Those words came alive in my heart in a way I hadn't experienced before. It was a defining moment in my life when I knew God was drawing me to Himself.

 

Right now, I believe God is drawing you to Himself in a special way, too. You can probably look back over your life and see His defining moments speaking to your heart. Meditate on those times. Ask the Lord to reveal Himself in a fresh, new way. Look for His hand guiding and directing you and allow Him to reveal His love and goodness to you!

 

 

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Re: FAVORIT QUOTES / THOUGHTS / PRAYERS ETC.
Oct 4, 2012 08:58 AM
Buddha quote

The whole secret of existence is to have no fear. Never fear what will become of you, depend on no one. Only the moment you reject all help are you freed. 
(116 of 168)
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Oct 4, 2012 11:58 AM
all great achievements take time....not sure if that's word for word or not, doesn't matter, you get the jist.  keeps me going!:-D
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Oct 7, 2012 04:12 AM

JK Rowling's Harvard commencement address;)

 

President Faust, members of the Harvard Corporation and the Board of Overseers, members of the faculty, proud parents, and, above all, graduates.

The first thing I would like to say is ‘thank you.’ Not only has Harvard given me an extraordinary honour, but the weeks of fear and nausea I have endured at the thought of giving this commencement address have made me lose weight. A win-win situation! Now all I have to do is take deep breaths, squint at the red banners and convince myself that I am at the world’s largest Gryffindor reunion.

Delivering a commencement address is a great responsibility; or so I thought until I cast my mind back to my own graduation. The commencement speaker that day was the distinguished British philosopher Baroness Mary Warnock. Reflecting on her speech has helped me enormously in writing this one, because it turns out that I can’t remember a single word she said. This liberating discovery enables me to proceed without any fear that I might inadvertently influence you to abandon promising careers in business, the law or politics for the giddy delights of becoming a gay wizard.

You see? If all you remember in years to come is the ‘gay wizard’ joke, I’ve come out ahead of Baroness Mary Warnock. Achievable goals: the first step to self improvement.

Actually, I have wracked my mind and heart for what I ought to say to you today. I have asked myself what I wish I had known at my own graduation, and what important lessons I have learned in the 21 years that have expired between that day and this.

I have come up with two answers. On this wonderful day when we are gathered together to celebrate your academic success, I have decided to talk to you about the benefits of failure. And as you stand on the threshold of what is sometimes called ‘real life’, I want to extol the crucial importance of imagination.

These may seem quixotic or paradoxical choices, but please bear with me.

Looking back at the 21-year-old that I was at graduation, is a slightly uncomfortable experience for the 42-year-old that she has become. Half my lifetime ago, I was striking an uneasy balance between the ambition I had for myself, and what those closest to me expected of me.

I was convinced that the only thing I wanted to do, ever, was to write novels. However, my parents, both of whom came from impoverished backgrounds and neither of whom had been to college, took the view that my overactive imagination was an amusing personal quirk that would never pay a mortgage, or secure a pension. I know that the irony strikes with the force of a cartoon anvil, now.

So they hoped that I would take a vocational degree; I wanted to study English Literature. A compromise was reached that in retrospect satisfied nobody, and I went up to study Modern Languages. Hardly had my parents’ car rounded the corner at the end of the road than I ditched German and scuttled off down the Classics corridor.

I cannot remember telling my parents that I was studying Classics; they might well have found out for the first time on graduation day. Of all the subjects on this planet, I think they would have been hard put to name one less useful than Greek mythology when it came to securing the keys to an executive bathroom.

I would like to make it clear, in parenthesis, that I do not blame my parents for their point of view. There is an expiry date on blaming your parents for steering you in the wrong direction; the moment you are old enough to take the wheel, responsibility lies with you. What is more, I cannot criticise my parents for hoping that I would never experience poverty. They had been poor themselves, and I have since been poor, and I quite agree with them that it is not an ennobling experience. Poverty entails fear, and stress, and sometimes depression; it means a thousand petty humiliations and hardships. Climbing out of poverty by your own efforts, that is indeed something on which to pride yourself, but poverty itself is romanticised only by fools.

What I feared most for myself at your age was not poverty, but failure.

At your age, in spite of a distinct lack of motivation at university, where I had spent far too long in the coffee bar writing stories, and far too little time at lectures, I had a knack for passing examinations, and that, for years, had been the measure of success in my life and that of my peers.

I am not dull enough to suppose that because you are young, gifted and well-educated, you have never known hardship or heartbreak. Talent and intelligence never yet inoculated anyone against the caprice of the Fates, and I do not for a moment suppose that everyone here has enjoyed an existence of unruffled privilege and contentment.

However, the fact that you are graduating from Harvard suggests that you are not very well-acquainted with failure. You might be driven by a fear of failure quite as much as a desire for success. Indeed, your conception of failure might not be too far from the average person’s idea of success, so high have you already flown.

Ultimately, we all have to decide for ourselves what constitutes failure, but the world is quite eager to give you a set of criteria if you let it. So I think it fair to say that by any conventional measure, a mere seven years after my graduation day, I had failed on an epic scale. An exceptionally short-lived marriage had imploded, and I was jobless, a lone parent, and as poor as it is possible to be in modern Britain, without being homeless. The fears that my parents had had for me, and that I had had for myself, had both come to pass, and by every usual standard, I was the biggest failure I knew.

Now, I am not going to stand here and tell you that failure is fun. That period of my life was a dark one, and I had no idea that there was going to be what the press has since represented as a kind of fairy tale resolution. I had no idea then how far the tunnel extended, and for a long time, any light at the end of it was a hope rather than a reality.

So why do I talk about the benefits of failure? Simply because failure meant a stripping away of the inessential. I stopped pretending to myself that I was anything other than what I was, and began to direct all my energy into finishing the only work that mattered to me. Had I really succeeded at anything else, I might never have found the determination to succeed in the one arena I believed I truly belonged. I was set free, because my greatest fear had been realised, and I was still alive, and I still had a daughter whom I adored, and I had an old typewriter and a big idea. And so rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.

You might never fail on the scale I did, but some failure in life is inevitable. It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default.

Failure gave me an inner security that I had never attained by passing examinations. Failure taught me things about myself that I could have learned no other way. I discovered that I had a strong will, and more discipline than I had suspected; I also found out that I had friends whose value was truly above the price of rubies.

The knowledge that you have emerged wiser and stronger from setbacks means that you are, ever after, secure in your ability to survive. You will never truly know yourself, or the strength of your relationships, until both have been tested by adversity. Such knowledge is a true gift, for all that it is painfully won, and it has been worth more than any qualification I ever earned.

So given a Time Turner, I would tell my 21-year-old self that personal happiness lies in knowing that life is not a check-list of acquisition or achievement. Your qualifications, your CV, are not your life, though you will meet many people of my age and older who confuse the two. Life is difficult, and complicated, and beyond anyone’s total control, and the humility to know that will enable you to survive its vicissitudes.

Now you might think that I chose my second theme, the importance of imagination, because of the part it played in rebuilding my life, but that is not wholly so. Though I personally will defend the value of bedtime stories to my last gasp, I have learned to value imagination in a much broader sense. Imagination is not only the uniquely human capacity to envision that which is not, and therefore the fount of all invention and innovation. In its arguably most transformative and revelatory capacity, it is the power that enables us to empathise with humans whose experiences we have never shared.

One of the greatest formative experiences of my life preceded Harry Potter, though it informed much of what I subsequently wrote in those books. This revelation came in the form of one of my earliest day jobs. Though I was sloping off to write stories during my lunch hours, I paid the rent in my early 20s by working at the African research department at Amnesty International’s headquarters in London.

There in my little office I read hastily scribbled letters smuggled out of totalitarian regimes by men and women who were risking imprisonment to inform the outside world of what was happening to them. I saw photographs of those who had disappeared without trace, sent to Amnesty by their desperate families and friends. I read the testimony of torture victims and saw pictures of their injuries. I opened handwritten, eye-witness accounts of summary trials and executions, of kidnappings and rapes.

Many of my co-workers were ex-political prisoners, people who had been displaced from their homes, or fled into exile, because they had the temerity to speak against their governments. Visitors to our offices included those who had come to give information, or to try and find out what had happened to those they had left behind.

I shall never forget the African torture victim, a young man no older than I was at the time, who had become mentally ill after all he had endured in his homeland. He trembled uncontrollably as he spoke into a video camera about the brutality inflicted upon him. He was a foot taller than I was, and seemed as fragile as a child. I was given the job of escorting him back to the Underground Station afterwards, and this man whose life had been shattered by cruelty took my hand with exquisite courtesy, and wished me future happiness.

And as long as I live I shall remember walking along an empty corridor and suddenly hearing, from behind a closed door, a scream of pain and horror such as I have never heard since. The door opened, and the researcher poked out her head and told me to run and make a hot drink for the young man sitting with her. She had just had to give him the news that in retaliation for his own outspokenness against his country’s regime, his mother had been seized and executed.

Every day of my working week in my early 20s I was reminded how incredibly fortunate I was, to live in a country with a democratically elected government, where legal representation and a public trial were the rights of everyone.

Every day, I saw more evidence about the evils humankind will inflict on their fellow humans, to gain or maintain power. I began to have nightmares, literal nightmares, about some of the things I saw, heard, and read.

And yet I also learned more about human goodness at Amnesty International than I had ever known before.

Amnesty mobilises thousands of people who have never been tortured or imprisoned for their beliefs to act on behalf of those who have. The power of human empathy, leading to collective action, saves lives, and frees prisoners. Ordinary people, whose personal well-being and security are assured, join together in huge numbers to save people they do not know, and will never meet. My small participation in that process was one of the most humbling and inspiring experiences of my life.

Unlike any other creature on this planet, humans can learn and understand, without having experienced. They can think themselves into other people’s places.

Of course, this is a power, like my brand of fictional magic, that is morally neutral. One might use such an ability to manipulate, or control, just as much as to understand or sympathise.

And many prefer not to exercise their imaginations at all. They choose to remain comfortably within the bounds of their own experience, never troubling to wonder how it would feel to have been born other than they are. They can refuse to hear screams or to peer inside cages; they can close their minds and hearts to any suffering that does not touch them personally; they can refuse to know.

I might be tempted to envy people who can live that way, except that I do not think they have any fewer nightmares than I do. Choosing to live in narrow spaces leads to a form of mental agoraphobia, and that brings its own terrors. I think the wilfully unimaginative see more monsters. They are often more afraid.

What is more, those who choose not to empathise enable real monsters. For without ever committing an act of outright evil ourselves, we collude with it, through our own apathy.

One of the many things I learned at the end of that Classics corridor down which I ventured at the age of 18, in search of something I could not then define, was this, written by the Greek author Plutarch: What we achieve inwardly will change outer reality.

That is an astonishing statement and yet proven a thousand times every day of our lives. It expresses, in part, our inescapable connection with the outside world, the fact that we touch other people’s lives simply by existing.

But how much more are you, Harvard graduates of 2008, likely to touch other people’s lives? Your intelligence, your capacity for hard work, the education you have earned and received, give you unique status, and unique responsibilities. Even your nationality sets you apart. The great majority of you belong to the world’s only remaining superpower. The way you vote, the way you live, the way you protest, the pressure you bring to bear on your government, has an impact way beyond your borders. That is your privilege, and your burden.

If you choose to use your status and influence to raise your voice on behalf of those who have no voice; if you choose to identify not only with the powerful, but with the powerless; if you retain the ability to imagine yourself into the lives of those who do not have your advantages, then it will not only be your proud families who celebrate your existence, but thousands and millions of people whose reality you have helped change. We do not need magic to change the world, we carry all the power we need inside ourselves already: we have the power to imagine better.

I am nearly finished. I have one last hope for you, which is something that I already had at 21. The friends with whom I sat on graduation day have been my friends for life. They are my children’s godparents, the people to whom I’ve been able to turn in times of trouble, people who have been kind enough not to sue me when I took their names for Death Eaters. At our graduation we were bound by enormous affection, by our shared experience of a time that could never come again, and, of course, by the knowledge that we held certain photographic evidence that would be exceptionally valuable if any of us ran for Prime Minister.

So today, I wish you nothing better than similar friendships. And tomorrow, I hope that even if you remember not a single word of mine, you remember those of Seneca, another of those old Romans I met when I fled down the Classics corridor, in retreat from career ladders, in search of ancient wisdom:
As is a tale, so is life: not how long it is, but how good it is, is what matters.
I wish you all very good lives.
Thank-you very much.

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Re: FAVORIT QUOTES / THOUGHTS / PRAYERS ETC.
Oct 7, 2012 04:52 AM

Steve Jobs urged graduates to pursue their dreams and fulfill the opportunities in life’s setbacks:

 

Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don’t lose faith. I’m convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You’ve got to find what you love. … Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it.

 

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.

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