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Last Post Nov 7, 2009 3:41 PM by: prairiecream
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Re: Is it just me, or is it kind of creepy...

Nov 6, 2009 9:12 PM
When my brother died in 2000 he was cremated after his Catholic funeral. Half of him is still here in California, and the other half was taken to Arkansas and his ashes were spread about on our grandfather's old home place. As the ashes flew around my sis-in-law was singing, "Ashes are flying in the air, and pieces of Don are everywhere!" :^O I still miss him a lot, but my memories of him are still sharp and I smile when I remember him now instead of cry (most of the time).
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Re: Is it just me, or is it kind of creepy...

Nov 6, 2009 10:10 PM
The first thing you notice, is that the dead do not move. They seem alive, sort of, from a distance, but somewhere in the back of your mind, there's a cognative dissonance, a subliminal awareness in your subconscious that something is terribly, terribly wrong. It's like watching shadows in the moonlight - it's very hard to focus. Then it hits - they aren't breathing, moving, twitching; you know, those subtle cues that the back of your brain stores away for so long, but never really brings to your attention. And you touch them - and they're cold.

Many years of this - I photographed them, ones who had made the transition that none of us could understand or follow, for a time. Homicides, suicides, fatal traffic accidents, accidents. And sometimes, after the photos came back, I'd look at them, and compare them in my mind to the things I had seen - the young teenage kid killed in a car wreck, a young girl's brused and battered leg impaled on the wreckage - I will never, ever forget that one.

Sometimes, I don't know why, the photos are worse, in their own way, than viewing the real thing in person - but only sometimes.

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Re: Is it just me, or is it kind of creepy...

Nov 6, 2009 11:06 PM
My sister and I chartered a small boat to cast part of our father's ashes off the coast of northern California.

We then went to an inn just south of Mendocino (Cabot Cove from the Murder She Wrote TV series). We had sent our parents there for their anniversary and they loved the place, so we wanted him to be there.

However, since the minimum distance for dispersing ashes is three miles offshore (hence the boat), we had to resort to subterfuge. We walked down to the beach and scattered a bit down there. Then we took some of the ashes and put them in small plastic film containers. We went to the cliff beside the cabin where they stayed so we could throw them in the water.

However, first we threw a few pine cones in... to make it seem cool if anyone was watching us. After a few cones, we tossed the film canisters so Dad could be right beneath the cliffside cabin.


Here's the coastal view from the cliff:

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To see the inn where they stayed, watch the movie Same Time Next Year. It was filmed there.
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Re: Is it just me, or is it kind of creepy...

Nov 7, 2009 8:45 AM
Years ago, when my grandfather (whose family was Catholic) passed away in his home in Arizona, my aunt had a great solution, as he did not want a funeral and back in 1970 Catholic's were standing strong against cremation. They had hm cremated and scattered according to his wishes and they sent two sets of memorial cards. To his friends in Tucson, they said he was buried in Detroit and to his family in Detroit, they sent cards saying he was buried in Tucson, LOL



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Re: Is it just me, or is it kind of creepy...

Nov 7, 2009 9:36 AM
Maybe it's some kind of mixture of cultural, regional, "older generational" thing but I've known of a lot of instances in which the deceased were not only photographed but photos taken of each family member kissing the deceased good-bye.

I knew a woman who not only had a picture taken of her kissing her Mother good-bye but then had a good sized oil painting made of the photo. It was her most prized posession.

I grew up/lived a lot of years in the South and have an extended family in the "hills" of the Ozarks...photos of the dead and rituals like kissing the deceased were (and still probably are) quite common.

Do I think it's creepy? I never bothered to think about it to judge it one way or another...It's not for me, but it doesn't "creep me out", it just is.
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Re: Is it just me, or is it kind of creepy...

Nov 7, 2009 10:14 AM
I suppose it is deemed creepy by those who think death is creepy.

I have been exposed to so many deaths that I now view death as a mundane fact of life. People are being born everyday and people die everyday. It's the complete cycle. Nothing at all creepy about the dead.


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Re: Is it just me, or is it kind of creepy...

Nov 7, 2009 11:59 AM
I never have, nor have I seen anyone else do so. However, I do have photos of family members, circa 1900, in coffins and on their deathbeds. Location was central Arkansas. I have one photo of a coffin in a grave, and even one of the deceased sitting in a chair, obviously posed. I do not know the story behind those two photos.
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Re: Is it just me, or is it kind of creepy...

Nov 7, 2009 12:10 PM
reno, were you a crime scene photographer? I'm not sure that I could do that job, but I know it has to be done, so thank you for your service.

hastings, I too have seen my fair share of dead bodies, being in the healthcare field and all....I'm pretty numb to it by now....the one thing I do when someone dies, is to open a window to allow the spirit to escape the room....just an old wives tale, but I'm superstitous like that....

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Re: Is it just me, or is it kind of creepy...

Nov 7, 2009 3:32 PM
Hi *dm* - and Thank You! It's been some years now, but it's always there, in the back of my mind, seconds away from my full consciousness. We'd go out to a homicide, and I swear the air became thicker once we got close...

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Re: Is it just me, or is it kind of creepy...

Nov 7, 2009 3:41 PM
Worked for a funeral home in the U.P of Michigan in the early 90's. We had our 1st funeral video taped in 94', done because we were in a remote location, and many family members were unable to attend. We did about a hundred or so funerals a year. Wasn't licensed ,so I didn't have to do any of the "jobs" for which funeral directors are so well paid. I turned them down on paying for my mortuary science degree, rather than contracting the following five years of my life.

Being in that business, you quickly come
to realize how short & precious life is.


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