At this point I posted a second feedback on the sellers page to close it out and consider it a loss. I tried the route of appology and asking to work with an agreement but it was to no avail. Thank you all for all your help. I learned a lot. I especially like that page that will show me the negative feedback that a seller has recieved before. Some of those were actually similar to what I have experienced.

Just to address a couple things I have seen watching this conversation.

People keep saying that it is unclear if the seller actually shipped the product. This is due to unclear language on the sellers part in a clever attempt to make himself look better. The feedback on his site says "replacement" while the email he sent me says "FYI your order was never sent because PayPal failed to notify us that your pending eCheck payment cleared." If you read that carefully you notice "was never sent" that leaves no questions about if it was sent or lost. The seller has said it was not sent. This is the email that prompted me to make this post because it suddenly went from me thinking I was making trivial feedback to realizing that I clearly didnt have a working knowledge of what I did to make this guy so angry.

wishbetterthings661, you ask how can a seller bully the buyer? Well although I have some empathy at this point for the average buyer who is doing the right thing and cant leave feedback for buyers but buyers can say whatever they want...this situation has the tables turned. This is only possible because I was not carefull with my time. I should have started asking where the product was after a couple weeks had passed but I kept thinking it would take a long time because it was coming from thailand. I work long schedules, mix the two, and by the time I could deal with this issue it was too late to file any claims. So the buyer has my money, my product, and a negative feedback. The negative feeback is the only bargaining chip I have and he wants me to clear it before he will send me pants or a refund. He has already recieved money for this item. So he has all the cards, all the power, and is asking me to remove negative feedback or he will keep it all. That is the picture perfect bully. He holds you in the air ready to punch and tells you to give him your lunch money. You can hold back and you get punched or you can give in and you loose that last thing your holding on to(lunch money) and might still get punched. Or in this situation I could keep the feedback there and at least I know I have made a statement or I can remove it and loose even that and probably still will not recieve a refund. Im sorry if you see me as a bully wishbetterthings661 but although I can see mistakes that I have made in this I can not consider myself at fault at this point. I tried to resolve this issue so that both parties could be satisfied and was denided that. I have recieved nothing for this but it has cost me my money and my time. At this point I believe my time is the bigger loss. I can not reconcile these facts with the red headed bully that you have posted in what seems to reference the buyers as the bully...not in this context without thinking you are making a dig at me. But as you stated, you did not read the whole post so I will accept that appology for being asleep at the wheel, and I will even concede the point that buyers usually have the ability to bully the seller, just not in this case.

As for the rest of you who did read this again thank you. It has been a great learning experience and honestly...Im not sure how worth it buying on ebay is for me. It seems unsafe compared to normal methods of buying and often I can find similar deals locally due to where I live and the strong desire in the area to waste nothing. But if I do use it again I know that I need to be on the seller as soon as I get off each shift so this never happens again.